Why Women Struggle to Love Themselves

Women have been fighting all their lives to be considered an equal in our society and let me tell you, history does not lie. We had to fight for the right to vote, the right to make decisions regarding our bodies, the right to be considered an equal (Equal Rights Amendment), and the list goes on. The sad part is we are STILL fighting today. By receiving less pay than men, by being teared down when we openly talk about sexual assault, by being low-numbered in government positions, and not enough women getting elected to contribute to political decisions.

So, yes! Women struggle to love themselves.

It’s 2018 but we are marching, shouting, protesting, and vocalizing the issues that have been affecting our lives. We currently only have 20% of women representing the United States Congress, therefore we have 80% of members who are men; making decisions and debating about issues that require the voice of a woman. Not because we are better than men but because we have equal rights, as all people should.

So we make it the top? because we’re a BOSS, but then we are shunned when we are in power, the same patriarchal mind-set is still strongly lingering in this society. The stigma that a woman in a position of power, is failing as a mother and should be at home taking care of business; cooking cleaning, and doing all the “women” things we are required to do. EXCUSE ME? but who was handling business after World War 1? Women. Yes we created those guns you used, we worked and risked our lives too while handling the family business, BUT despite all of that, we were expected to go back into our “place”.

DISCLAIMER: This post is NOT to put men down in any way but it is important to point out that we are still not viewed as equals.

To the women out there that have to work 20 times harder than men, I applaud you, I encourage you, and I invite you to be fearless in addressing, a deep rooted desire of being so unloving to yourself. We have endured a lot, we have been told what to do, and not on purpose but sometimes just out of ignorance.


Just like Michelle Obama said ” There is no limit to what we, as women, can accomplish.

Published by Chelsea De Jesus

Chelsea believes that we are all souls, directed by the universe to fulfill our soul's purpose. She is currently pursuing her master's degree in public administration, concentrating on human resources/non-profit management in Brooklyn, NY. Her journey with SoulyHer started in 2016, when she realized the key to finding your soul purpose was self-love, self-care, and wellness. Since then she has been an advocate in inspiring all women to love themselves whole-heartily. She is also interested in women's studies, women in government, and would consider herself a feminist. Her work with women, comes from her own personal story of being raised by a strong independent single mother. She is also studying to be a personal trainer and hopes to help more people, women especially understand the value of wellness- mentally and physically.

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